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How to approach International online dating

Mar 16, 2018

A real approach to the International online dating, so you do not let yourself get scammed by deceiving practices, be ware, and do not scam yourself as well.


The undoubted proof of numbers:

- American adults in 2018 are expected to spend on average 3 hours 23 minutes on non-voice mobile media. 
- Users spend on average 69% of their media time on smartphones.
- Google drives 96% of mobile search traffic, followed by Yahoo at 2% and Bing at 1%.
- 80% of social media time is spent on a mobile device.
- Over 50% of smartphone users grab their smartphone immediately after waking up.
- Mobile email opens have grown by 180% in the last three years.
- 79% of people use their smartphone for reading email - a higher percentage than those who use it for making calls.
- This year is expected that, 8 in 10 email users will likely access their email accounts exclusively from their mobile devices.


With the popularity of sites like eHarmony, match.com, OkCupid and literally thousands of similar others, the stigma of online dating has diminished considerably in the last decade. More and more of us insist on outsourcing our love-lives to spreadsheets and algorithms. According to the Pew Research Center, the overwhelming majority of Americans suggest that online dating is a good way to meet people. Interestingly, more than 15% of adults say that they have used either mobile dating apps or an online dating site at least once in the past. Online dating services are now the second most popular way to meet a partner. But do we meet a real partner?

Several things are driving the popularity of online dating, but as the primary factor is time, online dating presents itself as a practical solution to a serious problem. Browsing profiles aren't nearly as time-consuming as mixing with people in a social context and be assured they are who they said they would. That way would no longer be a risky make-believe online dating but a saving-time certainty.


Worthy to know and think about:

1. People lie on their online dating profiles
Most people probably wouldn’t be surprised to learn that it’s more common for people to lie in their online profile than be completely honest. A study of over 1,000 online daters in the US and UK conducted by global research agency OpinionMatters founds some fascinating statistics. A total of 53% of US participants admitted to having lied in their online dating profile. Women apparently lied more than men, with the most common dishonesties being about looks. Over 20% of women posted photos of their younger selves. 
While dishonesty was slightly less prevalent among the British sample, 44% did admit to lying in their online profile. In both the US and UK samples, dishonesty declined with age. I want to believe due to their standards be more at the level of their search and know by a fact that, unfortunately, the mental age we feel inside has not that promoting face as we all would like to have.

2. Looking for a relationship
One of the significant problems with online dating for women is that, although there are genuine relationship-seeking men on the sites, there are also plenty of guys on there merely looking for sex. While most people would agree that on average men are more eager for sex than women, it seems that many men assume that if a woman has an online dating presence, she’s interested in sleeping with relative strangers. Online dating does represent the convenience of being able to meet others that you possibly never would have otherwise. Women online are aware that they will receive rude/disgusting messages from horny guys, sexual propositions/requests, dick-pics, and a lot of creepy vibes. But as the majority of the women posted in those International online dating sites are not physically there replying but their paid vulture-translators, let's say that they are paid to deal with that, and all have what they deserve.

3. Negotiating the scam-internet
Scams have been around as long as the internet (possibly even before). Of course, there are pitfalls and tripwires in every sphere of life, but this may be particularly true in the context of online dating. There are thousands of online scams, and I’m not going to run through any in detail here, but do some research before you go giving your bank details to ‘Nigerian princes’ promising ‘fun moments’. You should probably be wary of any person, group or entity asking for any financial or personal information. It might even be advisable to follow these general guidelines:

4. It makes you picky and judgmental
It’s effortless to quit on one person online when the virtual dating-pool as other countless overwhelming potential offers. The US Association of Psychological Science found that reviewing multiple dating candidates causes people to be more judgmental, and inclined to dismiss a not-quite-perfect candidate than they otherwise would do in a face-to-face meeting. Long story short, is undeniably proven that prolonged online dating screen leads to unreasonable pickiness and judgmental mistakes delaying your real success.

5. Relationships don’t last
Did you know that 90% of all people who use International dating sites spending their money online have never visited the country where the women they chat with lives?  According to research conducted at Michigan State University, relationships that start out online, are 28% more likely to break down in their first year, than relationships where the couples first met face-to-face. And it gets worse. Couples who met online are nearly three times as likely to get divorced than couples that met face-to-face. It should not be a surprising fact: human relationships, as the name says, are physically human and there's no other way around. Unless in the near future we become able to download a wife or marry remotely as a digital product.

However, it isn’t all misery and woe. Not everything is lost; the overwhelming majority of romantic relationships still begin offline. I do not mind that you are one of that 50 % who grabs the smartphone immediately after waking up and spend 80% of your social media time talking to her on Facebook after meeting her in-person while living the real life.


Of course, there are plenty more do’s and do not’s of online dating, but I guess the most important thing here is to use your common sense. If something feels off, trust your guts. You don’t necessarily have to develop a ‘trust no-one and sleep with one eye open’ approach to online dating, but it is probably worthwhile having a healthy degree of skepticism in general or trust a Professional Matchmaking Company with whom you can contact directly and be sure they defend your best interests.