Is it possible to meet a real partner dating online?
With the popularity of dating sites, more and more people insist on outsourcing their love-lives to spreadsheets and algorithms, disregarding fundamental factors to succeed in meeting the significant ones. Let me first share with you a few compelling facts, and at the end of this article, come up with a conclusion. I believe it will help you a lot!
There are more single adults in the United States than ever before. In 2017, the U.S. census reported 110.6 million unmarried people over the age of 18 — that's 45.2% of the American adult population. Among that single growing population, 63% have never married, 23% are divorced, and 13% are widowed.
Online dating services are now the second most popular way to meet a partner. A recent study in the U.S. showed 20% of men and 13% of women had found a romantic partner online. However, the flip-side is that nearly half — 40% of men and 41% of women — had been unsuccessful in their search. Browsing profiles is not as time-consuming as mixing with people in a social context and be assured they are who they said they would.
1. Most people lie on their profiles when dating online
Most people probably wouldn’t be surprised to learn that it’s more common for people to lie in their profile than be completely honest. A study of over 1,000 online daters in the US and UK conducted by global research agency OpinionMatters founds some fascinating statistics. A total of 53% of US participants admitted to having lied in their profile. Women lie more than men, with the most common deceits being about looks. Over 20% of women posted photos of their younger selves.
While dishonesty was slightly less prevalent among the British sample, 44% did admit to lying in their profile. In both the US and UK samples, dishonesty declined with age. Searching standards go along with ageing, (supposedly) more reasonable, though the mental age we feel no longer matches physical appearance. Often, this leads to fake photos-profiles, victimizing the most the author in the short term when having sooner or later to face the reality they refused to accept.
2. Not everyone is legitimately online looking for a relationship
One of the significant problems with online dating for women is that, although there are genuine relationship-seeking men on the sites, there are also plenty of guys on there merely looking for sex. While most people would agree that on average men are more eager for sex than women, it seems that many men assume that if a woman has an online dating presence, she’s interested in sleeping with relative strangers. Online dating does represent the convenience of being able to meet others that you possibly never would have otherwise. Women online are aware that they will receive rude/disgusting messages from horny guys, sexual propositions/requests, dick-pics, and a lot of creepy vibes. But on the other hand, as 90% of the women posted in those international dating sites are not aware of your existence or personally replying to your messages, let's say that those impersonating paid-translators end to get what they deserve.
3. Send money only postpone an announced death relationship
Dating scams have been around as long as the internet (possibly even before). Of course, there are pitfalls and tripwires in every sphere of life, but this is particularly true in the context of online dating. There are hundreds of ways to manipulate emotions and scam online. I'm not going to run through that now, besides give you one of my experience based and proven advice. Do objective research and consult an international dating expert before you go sending money to any beautiful but misfortune Slavic girl you're dating online and never met or assess her legitimacy and genuine interest in you. If you want to go in-depth about many of those international online dating scams, I have experience-based insightful video tutorials with facts strong enough to share with sincere dating advice — dos and don'ts on my YouTube channel.
4. Long-time online-only feed fantasy and distantiate reality
Did you know that 90% of all people who use International dating sites spending their money online have never visited the country where their supposed dates live? According to research, relationships that start online, are 28% more likely to break down in their first year than relationships where the couples first met face-to-face. And it gets worse. Couples who met online are nearly three times as likely to get divorced than couples that met face-to-face. It should not be a surprising fact: human relationships, as the name says, can only be physically human. Therefore, there's no other way around. Unless you merely aim for a virtual partner or any other form of online self-entertainment as gambling or surf social networks in search of elusive self-gratification. If you want to understand the mechanics of how your brain can be easily hacked? Read this in-depth article.
5. Prolonged online dating leads to unreasonable pickiness
Regarding dating, the word “picky” is open to two interpretations: 1) Quick to judge, and 2) Having standards and deal breakers. Both have their pros and cons when it comes to turning on dating apps. On the one hand, we don’t want to waste our time on someone we know we aren’t going to like very much. But, on the other hand, we might overlook a great catch based on a superficial reason (especially in the swipe left/right environment).
It’s effortless to quit on one person online when the virtual dating-pool as other countless overwhelming potential offers. But the US Association of Psychological Science found that reviewing multiple dating candidates causes people to be more judgmental, and inclined to dismiss a not-quite-perfect candidate than they otherwise would do in a face-to-face meeting. Long story short, is undeniably proven that prolonged online dating search leads to unreasonable pickiness and judgmental mistakes postponing your real success. More often than not, I bet we are all too superficially picky. If that’s the case, self-awareness can help us determine whether we are passing over a great opportunity for a shallow reason, or if we do gather the characteristics to aim higher level candidates.
Authentic romantic relationships only begin offline in the real world face-to-face. Of course, there are plenty of do’s and don'ts about online dating, but the most important thing here is to use your common sense. If something feels off, trust your guts. You do not necessarily have to develop a 'trust no-one and sleep with one eye open’ approach to online dating, but keep in mind that it only represents an introduction still far to be confirmed and yet miles away from being a reality. Always keep a healthy degree of skepticism and consult a professional matchmaker or dating advisor in the country where your prospective candidates reside and ask for their experience advice assessing your ongoing dating quest methods and the candidates' characteristics versus your goals and match-ability to pursuit it.
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